Don't let your schooling interfere with your education.
~ Pete Seeger

Friday, August 22, 2008

Passing

It's been a bit of a shock to notice lately that I'm passing more than not. I never actually expected that this would happen, though of course I hoped for it. Not that my being trans is any big secret, it just makes social interactions more comfortable to be seen as fully woman. Even in a sampling of eight responses to phone bids for insulation, about two-thirds recognized me as female simply from my voice. And while scheduling my first mammogram, the questions indicated that the receptionist thought I was a genetic woman, until digging into the records turned up a duplicate ID number – at which point she grew very quiet for a few moments, then carried on as if nothing had happened. (It's worth noting here the very genuine sadness I felt that my past is following me around, even as I knew and expected it would.)

Of course, it's also possible that people are recognizing me as trans, and simply reacting at face value to my presentation. In other words, I'm getting clocked, but nobody cares.

Which could be even better than passing.

1 comment:

ajandmac said...

i like that ur passing

that makes me smile

Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.
~Helen Keller

Reading List for Information about Transpeople

  • Becoming a Visible Man, by Jamison Green
  • Conundrum, by Jan Morris
  • Gender Outlaw, by Kate Bornstein
  • My Husband Betty, by Helen Boyd
  • Right Side Out, by Annah Moore
  • She's Not There, by Jennifer Boylan
  • The Riddle of Gender, by Deborah Rudacille
  • Trans Liberation, by Leslie Feinberg
  • Transgender Emergence, by Arlene Istar Lev
  • Transgender Warriors, by Leslie Feinberg
  • Transition and Beyond, by Reid Vanderburgh
  • True Selves, by Mildred Brown
  • What Becomes You, by Aaron Link Raz and Hilda Raz
  • Whipping Girl, by Julia Serano
I have come into this world to see this:
the sword drop from men's hands even at the height
of their arc of anger
because we have finally realized there is just one flesh to wound
and it is His - the Christ's, our
Beloved's.
~Hafiz