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Saturday, February 20, 2010

Rape Prevention Tips That Work

Personal Failure recently linked to a list Valdosa State University published (and more recently removed from their website) advising women on "Tips for avoiding rape." Between PF and Fannie, the list itself has been thoroughly deconstructed, so I won't go into it here. Instead, I'll post an alternative list below, copied from I Blame the Patriarchy, with some modifications

Sexual Assault Prevention Tips Guaranteed to Work

1. No means no. There are no exceptions to this rule. Not even when you've been necking and heavy petting. "No" immediately removes all implicit and explicit consent; to continue and force sex after "no" constitutes rape.

2. Don’t put drugs in women’s drinks.

3. When you see a woman walking by herself, leave her alone.

4. If you pull over to help a woman whose car has broken down, remember not to assault her.

5. If you are in a lift and a woman gets in, don’t assault her. You know what? Don’t even ogle her.

6. When you encounter a woman who is asleep, the safest course of action is to not assault her.

6. Never creep into a woman’s home through an unlocked door or window, or spring out at her from between parked cars, or assault her.

8. When you lurk in bushes and doorways with criminal intentions, always wear bright clothing, wave a flashlight, or play “Boys Who Rape (Should All Be Destroyed)” by the Raveonettes on a boombox really loud, so women in the vicinity will know where to aim their flamethrowers.

9. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If it is inconvenient for you to stop yourself from assaulting women, ask a trusted friend to accompany you when in public.

10. Carry a rape whistle. If you find that you are about to assault a woman, you can hand the whistle to your buddy, so s/he can blow it to call for help.

11. Give your buddy a revolver, so that when indifferent passers-by either ignore the rape whistle, or gather round to enjoy the spectacle, s/he can pistol-whip you.

12. Don’t forget: Honesty is the best policy. When asking a woman out on a date, don’t pretend that you are interested in her as a person; tell her straight up that you expect to be assaulting her later. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the woman may take it as a sign that you do not plan to rape her.

4 comments:

aj said...

Why isn't there some sort of prevention class for young men? Required by law..

Seeing as how it is still such an overwhelmingly disgusting problem in this world.

They obviously need to be reminded.

uzza said...

The way you rewrote the first one is excellent. A lot of the others, and the tone of the whole thing, seems more joking than serious. eg "rememeber not to assault her."

I'd like to rework the whole thing for my self defense classes. working on it.

Seda said...

I think what we really need is to change the culture, AJ - to entirely destroy the patriarchy.

I'm glad you like the first one, Uzza. That's the only one I wrote myself. The rest are copied straight from I Blame the Patriarchy. And I see your point. I'd like to see it when you've reworked it!

uzza said...

Well, I've reworked it. It's anything but finished, but I posted its current incarnation here.

http://uzzas.blogspot.com/2010/07/rape-prevention-tips.html

Feedback much appreciated.

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